Sunday, September 22, 2013

The Scent of Fall

     I read a book this week that was set on the Chesapeake Bay.  It spoke of back to school and the turning of the leaves as fall settled in to chase away the heat.  I giggled at the differences between our geographical locations.  For me back to school does not symbolize fall.  For many of us below I-20, fall is a pipe dream.  August does not bring relief here but brutalizes and tests faith.  For others, the start of football brings the thoughts of hoodies and bonfires, I think of misters and two a days so treacherous that coaches are trained in the signs of heat stroke. Back to school is a blessing just to be inside while summer rages.
     August brings burn bans and drought.  The June rains are a distant memory as the local lakes seem to shrink overnight.  Their banks expand and grass now browns in the sun where water once stood.  Lawn mowers stand silent as their owners watch once green lawns become crunchy and brittle.  August for those of us on and around the southern plains is all the more terrible as the heat drones on and on with only the threat of heat lightning each afternoon.  First responders keep vigils just in case those fingers of light across the sky brings sparks of destruction with no hint of the blessing of rain to quench parched pastures.  Rancher's and farmer's fields set waiting while they bring in hay from Lord knows where to feed stock who gather under bits of shade, who risk broken ankles to reach water now well within the muddy and treacherous banks of stock ponds.
     Even I have felt the effects of the endless heat.  I have felt tired and cranky. My usual pep brought low by the endless drone of insects and the constant beating of the sun.  Weekends usually spent outdoors with tiller and hoe or lawnmower and clippers are wasted as I simply glare out the window and curse the same Texas sun I once praised.  The thought of going outside after 8 am just too much to bear so I huddle in gloom.  Papers went ungraded, lesson plans seemed daunting and I was so short with my children that they too had become sullen and cranky.
     On Friday, my eldest prepared for the homecoming game and as we all traveled to school, the sky darkened  and the thunder clapped.  The rain began just as the tardy bell rang.  It did not mist or sprinkle but gush.  My students and I huddled at the door between classes and reveled in the glory of that downpour.  That night as I watched from the bleachers, my daughter marched along with the others of the Big Red Band.  I began to giggle again.  They marched through mud and some with out instruments as the damp would do them damage in bright red ponchos that lived up to their name.  Even though the rain continued to fall, the band and crowds alike simply pulled up their hoods on ponchos and rain coats and continued to cheer.   By the fourth quarter, it was barely misting but spirits were still high, soggy but happy.
     This is what we had been waiting for, what our faith said would come.  That first true drenching from the north that would signal the start of fall.  On our drive home it was an orgy of animals in the road, desperate to dance in the rain.  I dodged hundred of frogs and stopped to help turtles reach the other side.  Deer could be seen, their heads tilted up and I slowed my pace even more to revel in nature taking her joy in the slick rain we all so craved.
     Saturday dawned gloomy and the clouds brought more rain but by dark, the clouds had cleared and the stars came out.  A moon clear and bright signaled the first windows to be raised.  The hum of the air conditioner was silent for the first time since April.  By 10 pm, the breeze so cool, I gleefully grabbed my most beloved and worn in hoodie to sit and listen to the night sounds on my tiny porch.  So glorious was the cool that long after the children had given up the ghost and my eyelids barely open, I kept my vigil on the night.
     This morning, I grabbed gloves and gas can and headed outside.  I took a page from Phil and Jase's book and kicked the kids outside as this cool morning seemed too precious to waste on TV and video games.  I tilled the last of the summer plants under and smelled the crisp air and fresh dirt.  I watched my children climb their favorite tree and listened to innocent laughter float on the cool breeze filtered by the rustle of leaves.  I mowed and could not keep the smile off my face as I watched my animals sunning on the freshly cut grass.  Here at last was our relief.  Even now, as afternoon begins to head towards evening, we all stay outside enjoying the sounds of birds rustling and twittering in the trees.  Games of hide and seek, last more than minutes as the sun gently warms and the breeze cools.  It is a gorgeous day! I can not stop smiling and repeating, it is a gorgeous day!  Now hide and seek turns to ninja assassins and even lunch brings them in in only to refuel before the game of tag begins.  No cries of, "Mom, I'm bored," or "Mom, he's cheating," at some video game.  Books are read in the shade of a tree and a walk down the road has been mentioned.
     Summer is not quite over as any who have lived here long know.  Her cruel grip has been lessened but her hold not broken yet.  She will rage again as the weather man tells me we will see 90 degrees by mid week, but her threat is so lessened that I but shrug and leave my hoodie hanging on the bed post.  Her end is near and though she may throw a few tantrums yet, fall is finally scented in the air.  My step feels lighter, my shoulders straighter.  Everything seems brighter, crisper and I know sleep will come late for me as I gather my hoodie around me once more and count stars in the cool moon light.


   
 

Monday, September 2, 2013

Extended Family

     Our family is our gift.  They shelter us in times of rain.  They embarrass us in public and sometimes they leave us before we are ready.  I have suffered my share of loss as all of us have, but today, I do not wish to dwell on the past.  I want to look forward to the future.  I have many I call family. My parents, my children of course, my crazy sisters and even crazier brother and all of my beautiful nieces and nephews.  I still have grandparents that send me birthday cards and tell me how proud they are along with aunts, uncles and cousins.  I believe we could fill up a small stadium if all my family ever stood together.  I love them one and all and hope they know that distance is but lines on a map for our love.

     The family I want to touch on today is that extended family we all have that carries us through everyday moments.  They share birthdays, holidays and anniversaries.  They share births and deaths, divorce and marriages and yet, many of them have never seen my house.  They know my favorite foods and pet peeves and I know theirs, yet I have never been inside their homes either.  Today, I speak of my work family.  Everyday we gather together.  We smile good morning and sigh good night.  We share battle stories of the day and say a prayer for each other each night.

     I work on a HS campus that employees approximately 60 teachers plus support staff.  We tend to almost 1,000 students each day, small compared to some I know, but nearly twice the size of my high school oh eons ago.  Each day by 7:30 am, the copy machine is humming, the computers are running and coffee is flowing.  Each hour we step in the hall and begin a conversation with our neighbor, five minute snippets of our lives as we fight off the hoards to go to the bathroom and get refills.  Sometimes it's like someone hit pause and we pick up the next hour right where we left off then the bell rings, the doors all close and the show continues.

     At our official 30 minute lunch, we math peeps gather.  The math department has 4 fresh new faces this year.  Two are brand new teachers and two are brand new to us.  They bring fresh life and laughter.  Sometimes I wonder about our former members who have moved on, some more than others, but mostly, it's a time spent trying new ideas, funny stories, prayer requests or just a moment to breath and be ourselves without 25 pairs of eyes waiting for the next act.

     Last week, I was the only veteran at the gathering for a minute, fielding questions of vital importance like why are the morning classes 2 minutes shorter than the afternoon when one of the newbies said that September 25 couldn't get here fast enough.  I asked why and they reminded me that newbies don't get their first check till then.  I had forgotten how long that first six weeks could be and then one said, "I don't even know what my salary is."  We all laughed and the others nodded in agreement.  I too remember not knowing what the first check would look like.  We are a rare breed.  I know of few professions that inspire such dedication, time and devotion and yet, money never enters the conversation during hiring.  We were all so excited to finally be in a classroom, that we simply forgot to ask if they were paying us, much less, how much.  Again, I was humbled by my work family and truly honored to work among such warriors.

     Today though in those 5 minutes, I shared a moment that will lead one of us towards a different battle.  Last year,  a senior member joined our team.  She has been my savior on more than one occasion as each day she simply says, "Coffee's ready."  I am not the only one who journey's to the room around the corner each day with mugs, Styrofoam and travel cup.  She takes care of all of us young and old with stashes of crackers, Little Debbie's and that all important teacher staple, mints.  She rarely asks for help in keeping stocked and although she is not the only stash keeper, she offers more with a friendly smile and a cheerful good morning.  Recently, she discovered a lump.  Last week was the biopsy and late Friday afternoon was the consultation.  In our busy lives, I simply said, "You are in my prayers," and headed off to my next class.  This morning, I grumpily prepared for work as it seemed the rest of the world slept in for Labor Day.  I pulled in the parking lot, opened my room, turned on the computer and then headed off around the corner for my cup of joe.  She wasn't there, but the coffee was.  I made a few copies and then headed for the before the bell bathroom break.  There, at her post by the stairs, she gave me her usual good morning and then I remember she had received her results.  As if she read my mind, she said, "Have you heard?"  I looked in her eyes and knew.  I simply wrapped her up.  It was cancer.  That bully we all stand up to, but keeps coming back.  The bell rings and I must let her go.  She does not cry so I won't either.

     Others have faced her fight, some have lost and some have won.  Some continue to fight while others pray that this time the remission stands.  I have stood by others that I loved, other family members that fought, but in my youth and selfishness, I did not give them the most important thing of all, my time.  I promised to stand beside her and it is a promise I did not make lightly.  After all, she's family.  We may not share any blood, but we share common ground, a love of children and coffee and a high school hall.  For me, that is more than reason enough.  I want to look forward to the future. In my future, I see shiny waxed floors, math lunch confabs, many 5 minute conversations about teenage antics and my family banding together to fight the bully one more time.  We will win, for cheerful good mornings and, "The coffee's ready."